Something came up about gratitude earlier in the week that left me thinking. It can be pleasant when someone thanks you for something, and it might not be. When power plays out gratitude can be an angle of attack, as much as it can be a feeling of love, of connection. A lack of gratitude can signal that no debt’s felt as much as that someone wants to deny any indebtedness. No gratitude can mean unconditional love or relentless aggression. (And gratitude can mean unconditional love or relentless aggression …). Expecting gratitude suggests a desire to be suspicious of, but finding it unexpectedly most often doesn’t.